I know what it feels like to abandon yourself for everyone else. I lived there. I found my way out.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
My Story
Eight years ago, I was miserable, burnt out, exhausted, and completely disengaged from a life that looked fine on paper and to everyone around me. I had been working for 20 years with doctors in medical administration, I loved helping patients navigate their health journey. Then things changed, my job situation changed it got busier, everyone wanted everything now. The job became more stressful but instead of taking ownership, I let the pleaser programme and the perfectionist pattern within me dictate how I reacted. There was a voice inside that told me the patients were the most important, that the doctors being happy was important, and somewhere amidst the stress, and noise and with the power of that voice telling me I was not worthy, I lost sight of myself, and my own health and wellbeing.
Most of all I felt like I was being taken for granted by everyone, in a role I gave so much to, that in the end even thought I had nothing left to give. I got stuck in a loop. Alarm. Snooze. Repeat. Exhausted physically, mentally, emotionally, but too afraid to change anything.
To compensate, I filled my weekends with adventure to escape the numbness of my weekdays. Never once taking responsibility for the role I was playing in my own struggle and suffering. In fact, I was blaming everyone else for my feelings of inadequacy and for me being miserable.
Coaching changed everything. It helped me release the fear and doubt that had quietly run my life for years, and it's why I trained as a coach myself, so I could help other women find their way out too. Or even better to help you not get trapped in the first place.
I finally took the leap the day the fear of staying became greater than the fear of moving on. With a foundation of self love, I learned not to abandon myself, or the vision I hold for the one life, the one human experience, I get to live, and leave a legacy from.
Self welcoming - reconnecting to me
Having burnt out twice in my life, I know the power of self sabotage driving negative patterns of behaviours driven by thoughts like, “I’m not good enough”, "I’m not deserving”, "I’m not worthy", "I need to give to receive”, all of these were leading to emotional turmoil, poor communication, being misunderstood, unhappy and toxic relationships. I was not in control of my emotions, my saboteurs were in control with self sabotaging behaviour.
Since becoming aware and understanding these behaviours, and building mental fitness, I have been able to connect with my unique personal power, and my creativity. My mission now is to help others with my coaching process along with the messages of hope and positivity in my mindful poetic stories, to touch people's hearts and help them make sustainable change in their lives for the better so they can be the best version, they want and choose to be, for themselves, building self value, self love and worth, from the inside out.
Positive Autonomy Coaching is all about helping clients become aware of what is hindering their progress in life, clearing the feeling of "stuckness" to taking ownership of their own life and their emotions in a positive way. Building your Mental Fitness and Positive Intelligence helps with:
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maximising potential to peak performance
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mental and physical wellbeing
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better relationships and communication
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stress and conflict management
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finding work/life balance
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coping with change
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personal growth and development
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living life with creativity, passion and purpose.
SELF WELCOMING